mysql 9804 0.0 0.6 58556 22960 pts/0 S 12:43 0:00 \_ /usr/sbin/mysqld --basedir=/ --datadir=/var/lib/mysql --user=mysql --pid-file=/var/lib/mysql/myhostname.pid --skip-external-locking --port=3306 --socket=/var/lib/mysql/mysql.sock
mysql 9807 0.0 0.6 58556 22960 pts/0 S 12:43 0:00 \_ /usr/sbin/mysqld --basedir=/ --datadir=/var/lib/mysql --user=mysql --pid-file=/var/lib/mysql/myhostname.pid --skip-external-locking --port=3306 --socket=/var/lib/mysql/mysql.sock
mysql 9808 0.0 0.6 58556 22960 pts/0 S 12:43 0:00 \_ /usr/sbin/mysqld --basedir=/ --datadir=/var/lib/mysql --user=mysql --pid-file=/var/lib/mysql/myhostname.pid --skip-external-locking --port=3306 --socket=/var/lib/mysql/mysql.sock
mysql 9809 0.0 0.6 58556 22960 pts/0 S 12:43 0:00 \_ /usr/sbin/mysqld --basedir=/ --datadir=/var/lib/mysql --user=mysql --pid-file=/var/lib/mysql/myhostname.pid --skip-external-locking --port=3306 --socket=/var/lib/mysql/mysql.sock
mysql 9810 0.0 0.6 58556 22960 pts/0 S 12:43 0:00 \_ /usr/sbin/mysqld --basedir=/ --datadir=/var/lib/mysql --user=mysql --pid-file=/var/lib/mysql/myhostname.pid --skip-external-locking --port=3306 --socket=/var/lib/mysql/mysql.sock
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They're not using 13 * 50mb of ram -- They're probably using something like 70mb total Remember that that linux will share unmodified memory pages between processes, so if your server is freshly started, most of that memory would all be shared. In fact, since mysql is threaded, there will only probably be even less memory allocated per thread. If your concerned about the memory useage of each mysql process, look @ /etc/mysql/my.cnf, and look @ the variables in the mysqld section: key_buffers, thread_stack, thread_cache_size, max_connections, query_cache_limit, query_cache_size
Be warned though, that those are very powerful variables to tune, and you can easily kill your mysql performance setting them too low, or waste memory that could be used elsewhere by setting them too high.
One easy starting point to figure out the best way to tune your mysql instance is to run your app for a little bit, then run the mysqltune script from here, which will analyze your performance counters, then produce a recommendation on what you should change in your server config.