I run a little 1&1 web server with quite a few sites all powered by SQL Express Db's and have never allowed connections to SQL Express from an external resource (Anything not on the server), as I am paranoid of the databases getting hacked if I allow external access.
What is the most secure way for me to allow a local program on my computer here to connect to my SQL Server on my 1&1 server? A step by step guide would be excellent :|