My problem is kind of complicated and I tried to find a solution for some weeks now:
I have a Debian 6 Sever which is 24/7 connected to a VPN, I set up dyn-dns on my router and port-forwarding, but I can't connect to it as long as the VPN is connected. After disabling the VPN it works.
So I came up with the idea of running a proxy in a virtual server, container or something where I can connect to (on the same machine) and this virtual machine should forward incoming connections to the physical machine (and block outgoing (if thats even something a proxy can do), to not circumvent the VPN).
I hope somebody gets what I'm talking about and can help me with this.