I'm trying to access a SQL Server 2012 database from a SQL Server Management Studio 2008 from a remote machine(on the same LAN). I can connect to the database using "sa" user under "SERVER_NAME\INSTANCE" on the local SQL Server Management Studio 2012, but I can't connect remotelly with "sa" even using "SERVER_NAME\INSTANCE", only "SERVER_NAME" or with the server IP address using the SQL Server Management Studio 2008. Already disabled firewall and made proper settings to connect with sa, am I missing some point?
Enable the SQL Browser Service on the server
You also need to make sure the firewall is open on the server on ports 1433 and 1434.
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