Try perl, the Swiss Army Chainsaw. Here's me finding the PID that holds port 80 open, then listing all the children:
[me@lory ~]$ sudo netstat -apn|grep -w 80|grep LISTEN
tcp 0 0 :::80 :::* LISTEN 8308/httpd
[me@lory ~]$ ps -ef|perl -n -e '@j=split / */; print "@j" if ( @j[2]==8308) ; '
apache 9235 8308 0 Dec05 ? 00:01:49 /usr/sbin/httpd
apache 10040 8308 0 Dec08 ? 00:00:41 /usr/sbin/httpd
apache 10477 8308 0 Dec07 ? 00:01:13 /usr/sbin/httpd
apache 10478 8308 0 Dec07 ? 00:01:21 /usr/sbin/httpd
apache 10658 8308 0 Dec08 ? 00:00:29 /usr/sbin/httpd
apache 10662 8308 0 Dec08 ? 00:00:26 /usr/sbin/httpd
apache 10666 8308 0 Dec08 ? 00:00:28 /usr/sbin/httpd
apache 10668 8308 0 Dec08 ? 00:00:35 /usr/sbin/httpd
apache 12694 8308 0 Dec06 ? 00:01:39 /usr/sbin/httpd
apache 12695 8308 0 Dec06 ? 00:01:43 /usr/sbin/httpd
apache 12696 8308 0 Dec06 ? 00:01:39 /usr/sbin/httpd
apache 18671 8308 0 08:41 ? 00:00:18 /usr/sbin/httpd
apache 21585 8308 0 Dec08 ? 00:00:42 /usr/sbin/httpd
apache 22010 8308 0 Dec05 ? 00:01:33 /usr/sbin/httpd
apache 22011 8308 0 Dec05 ? 00:01:49 /usr/sbin/httpd
apache 22012 8308 0 Dec05 ? 00:01:36 /usr/sbin/httpd
If you only want the PIDs:
[me@lory ~]$ ps -ef|perl -n -e '@j=split / */; print "@j[1]\n" if ( @j[2]==8308) ; '
9235
10040
10477
10478
10658
10662
10666
10668
12694
12695
12696
18671
21585
22010
22011
22012
ps auxf|grep hlds_run
should show you the processes you are looking for.